Pets and Pampering: How Dogs Became Our Fur-Covered Child Substitutes

10/13/20245 min read

long-coated brown dog
long-coated brown dog

There’s no denying it anymore—dogs aren’t just pets these days. They’ve become, quite frankly, our fur-covered children. We’ve shifted from treating dogs as mere companions to full-blown, spoiled offspring with wagging tails. Forget prams for babies; we’re talking about dog strollers. No more worrying about our actual biological clocks when we’ve got Fido to coddle like the needy, non-verbal toddler we never had. Enter the dog hotel—the most extravagant example yet of how far we’ll go to ensure our four-legged tyrants live in comfort that would make an actual royal blush.

While we agonize over the price of eggs or wince at filling up the car, our dogs are frolicking in accommodations that would make a Premier Inn feel like a medieval dungeon. As human beings, we’re scrimping on essentials, swapping trips to Waitrose for Aldi, but our canine overlords? They’re kicking back in dog suites with memory foam beds, mood lighting, and yes—gourmet meals that would make even Gordon Ramsay rethink his career choices.

We used to think dropping the dog off at a kennel was fine—maybe even fancy. But no more. The modern dog hotel is luxury incarnate, darling. A world of pampered pooches where kennels are sneered at like the equivalent of boarding school for a royal baby: heartless, too rough around the edges. These days, dogs aren’t abandoned in a tin-bowl gulag with a blanket that smells like the wrong side of a charity shop. They get plush suites with personalised room service and spa treatments. Naturally.

In fact, you can almost imagine the hushed whispers in doggy parlance at the check-in desk: “Oh, darling, just a weekend at Woofington Hall. It’s ever so quaint—private woodland, hydrotherapy pools, Michelin-level meals. You simply must visit.”

Let’s break it down. Dog hotels—not kennels, mind you, because that word is so middle-class—have redefined what it means to be an animal owner, or should I say, a dog-parent. The psychological shift is clear: this isn’t about having a pet; it’s about having a stand-in child. In a world where traditional parenting is being delayed, reconsidered, or downright rejected by an increasing number of people, dogs have conveniently filled the gap. A fur-baby doesn’t nag about pocket money, scream in the supermarket, or ask awkward questions about life and death—they just sit there, wag their tail, and apparently, demand lavender oil massages.

Dog hotels are designed to assuage the guilt of abandoning your fur-child when you swan off to Lanzarote for a week. The guilt-industrial complex that drives this market is a marvel in itself. You’re no longer a mere pet owner; you’re a neglectful parent if you even think about leaving your dog in anything less than five-star canine luxury. “Oh, you’re leaving Baxter at a regular kennel? Gosh, some dogs just don’t cope well in those conditions…” It’s a genius move. They’ve figured out how to wring cash from dog owners who fear little Bella might have a nervous breakdown if she’s left without daily Reiki sessions and classical music to calm her nerves.

Pick any one of these dog hotels, and you’ll be greeted with the kind of experience that would make a human customer weep with envy. Suites (yes, suites—because a mere room would be undignified) are kitted out with designer dog beds, mood lighting, and soft music to soothe their little canine souls. You half-expect them to leave with a bathrobe and slippers, too. And if your dog is feeling a tad anxious after a tough week of... sleeping on your sofa, there’s always bespoke aromatherapy to take the edge off.

It doesn’t stop there. You see, modern dogs can’t just sit around lounging—heaven forbid they get bored. These establishments offer a range of bespoke activities designed to keep your dog engaged. Group play sessions (imagine a CrossFit class for Labradors) help them burn off their artisanal snacks, while one-on-one cuddle time with trained staff ensures they get enough affection. Yes, people are being paid—presumably more than your local teachers or nurses—to cuddle dogs on demand. Meanwhile, somewhere in the world, a human is crammed into an economy seat, clutching their knees, and gnawing on a sandwich that tastes faintly of Styrofoam. But it’s okay—your dog is being thoroughly snuggled.

Of course, no dog hotel would be complete without a full-service spa. Yes, that’s right, a spa. Because why should humans hog all the pampering? Some places offer deep tissue massages with lavender oil to relax even the most high-strung Chihuahua. If your pooch has arthritis—no need to reach for the ibuprofen—there’s hydrotherapy to ease those achy joints. It’s a little galling when you think about it. While the rest of us pop anti-inflammatories just to get through a tough day at work, Rover is luxuriating in a hot tub.

But the pièce de résistance has to be the food. Gone are the days of canned mush and kibble. Today’s discerning canine connoisseur demands nothing less than organic, grain-free, ethically sourced meals, plated with more care than your average dinner party. Lamb shank with quinoa and rosemary is just the beginning. Some hotels boast menus designed by actual chefs. Can you imagine trying to explain to your dog that leftover steak is no longer enough after they’ve sampled such Michelin-level cuisine?

And for those owners who need proof of their dog’s happiness, some hotels offer professional photoshoots, capturing your dog as they frolic across a perfectly manicured lawn or bask in the luxury of their private suite. You’ll be face-planting a buffet in some dreary all-inclusive resort while your dog looks like the cover star of Vogue: Canine Edition.

The entire dog hotel industry highlights just how far we’ve come from seeing our pets as loyal companions to treating them as child substitutes. And there’s something quite fascinating about how we rationalize this. The rise of pet pampering runs parallel to a generational shift where traditional family structures are being upended. Millennials, Gen Z, and even a healthy number of Boomers are choosing pet-parenthood over the traditional, messy, human version of parenting. Why deal with nappies and nursery fees when you can raise a dog, treat them like royalty, and never face the awkward “Where do babies come from?” conversation?

It’s ironic, isn’t it? While many of us can barely afford to book a decent holiday for ourselves, we’ll bend over backwards to ensure our dogs get the full luxury experience. We’ll eat instant noodles for a month so that our fur-babies can dine on lamb shank. We’re redefining what it means to be “good parents,” except now our children have tails and no sense of the ridiculousness of it all.

And in the end, isn’t that the most staggering part of this whole dog hotel phenomenon? That somehow, somewhere along the way, we’ve convinced ourselves that our dogs need hydrotherapy, massages, and gourmet meals. We serve at the pleasure of our dogs—and now that service includes organic treats, chauffeurs, and lavender-scented bubble baths.

So while you might not be able to afford the high life, rest assured: your dog certainly can.